Are you truly happy?
So many people are looking for happiness where it can never be found. You are looking for happiness in things, possessions, money, and recognition. You’re looking for it in another person. You’re looking for praise from a parent, love from another person, for someone to like your Instagram photo but here’s the problem, you can never find it outside of you; it can only be found within you. All the happiness and joy you could ever hope for and more, it is inside of yourself.
The truth is we don’t need all those other things to complete our life. We don’t need anything outside ourselves to be happy right now. Think back to a time in your life you didn’t have those things you seek but we’re still happy; perhaps when you were a child, perhaps not too long ago. The reason why you were happy without those things is down to what you chose to focus on. Your focus wasn’t on what was not there. It was on what was there and happiness is always there if you choose to focus on finding it. We tend to always look for happiness outside ourselves but we all know that it doesn’t come from there. Whatever we perceive as reality becomes our reality.
It seems these days, less and less people take responsibility for their life. It seems less and less people master their emotions. They don’t run their life; they allow life to run them. Their problems are blamed on everyone and everything, but they never take responsibility for their own life. Life happens for you, not to you. What if every painful experience in your life was actually sent to benefit you, to make you stronger, to make you wiser, and to make you better? What if the challenge you are facing was sent to make you stronger? What if the difficult person was actually sent to teach you something? What if the loss you experience was sent to make you appreciate life more? The way we feel about everything in our choice. The truth is, every human being decides how they’re going to live their life because we all decide what meaning we give to each and every moment in our lives. We do not decide the circumstances that arrive each day but we absolutely decide how we are going to react to each circumstance. There’s no such thing as actual reality. There’s only our perception of reality. If you think about anything or any event, your version of it or your opinion of it will be completely different to many other people.
No one can tell you what a great life is and no one can tell you how to be happy or what you should or shouldn’t be doing with your life. No one can because you are unique. What success is for another may not be success for you. What a great life is for another may not be so great for you. What lights up another may dim your light. The only way you can be happy in this life, the only way you can be successful is if you be you. Follow your own path, listen to your own heart; that’s where the answers are. The answer to every question you need the answer for. So many people are unhappy in this world, because they‘re living lives they don’t want to live. Do the things that make you light up. Do the things that make you forget to check your phone and more things that make you smile, more things that make you laugh like a little kid! You only get one shot at this life.
Achieving anything of significance in life will never be easy, but the only way you can guarantee not achieving anything is if you never try in the first place. You do not know what is going to happen in the future; anything can happen. If you believe in yourself and are willing to learn how to make it happen. It might not happen right away. It might take you longer than expected but if you are committed and maintained belief that in the end you will achieve your desired outcome, you will achieve your desired outcome. Never give up! Never ever give up!
The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They make the best of everything! The happiest people don’t always have the greatest financial wealth. Happiness is a mind-set. Happiness is something we all can have because real happiness is never found outside of us. It is not found in possessions or wealth. Happiness is always and only found within us; it is a state of mind. The chasing of relationships is only because we think we would be happier if we had the ideal partner. Sure, there’s nothing wrong with these things but nothing can compare to genuine happiness, nothing can compare to the inner peace you feel when you need nothing. The irony is, when you get to the place where you need nothing externally, you attract those great things into your life. The magic is, when you are happy, you attract happy people. Everything doesn’t fall into place and then you become happy. You find happiness first, then everything falls into place. You can never control the events of life, but you can always control your response to them.
We should embrace the fact that this life is short; short and unpredictable. Knowing this, we must live fully today. Remembering that we are going to die is the greatest reminder we can have in our daily lives because it keeps us focused on what’s really important and what is real. There is nothing you cannot be, do or have. If there has been someone, even one person on this planet that has done it before that means you can too. It doesn’t mean it will be easy but it does mean it is possible. And as long as it is possible, you can work towards it, you can make a plan, learn what needs to be done for you to live your best life. Be yourself always, no exceptions. It’s such a tragedy to see so many people on this planet living lives they don’t want to live just because they listen to other people who did the same. The only way you can be happy in this life, the only way you can be successful is if you be you. You will never be truly happy in life if you are constantly doing things to please others, to compete with others or to be like another. You are unique. When you follow your own path regardless if that fits in with others, you open up space for great things to enter your life. Compare yourself to no one. Competes with no other. Make your own decisions and it will lead to your greatest life.
If you search for negativity in this world you will find plenty of it. If you search for hate, anger, violence and sadness you will find it but the same is true on the flip side. If your only intention is to search for the good, you will find only the good. Whatever meaning you give your life becomes your life. We choose our own reality by the meaning we give each moment in our lives. Make it your intention to look for the good in your life, to notice the good in others, to be grateful for what you do have, to see challenges as opportunities, to show your true character. Remember, what you give your attention to will become your experience in life. Practice seeing the good in your life and in others. Think the best, expect the best and be the best version of you. Just remember that it all comes down to you. It won’t be easy but with work and determination, you can learn to block out negativity and invite positivity. Whether you stop hanging out with negative people, unfollowing negative people on social media or hang out with your positive friends. Only you can decide your path forward and if you start taking small steps today, you will get there. You will have days where negativity gets the best of you, just remember even the happiest people have those days. Think about everything you are grateful and move on. If you want it, then do whatever it takes to get it. Remember life happens for you, not to you. When throws you a curve ball, just remember, it has not come to stay, it has come to pass. With every high comes a low and vice versa. You can’t have good times without a few bad times. Change your mind, change your life. It’s a constant battle but in the end, it’s a fight worth fighting.